Struggling with Comparison
I’m not sure why this topic has been so heavy on my heart lately, but I feel compelled to share my thoughts because I have a feeling a lot of girls struggle with comparison in one way or another. Whether you’re a blogger trying to build your brand amongst a million other bloggers or just an everyday girl who gets sucked into the comparison trap on Instagram and other social platforms, take five minutes out of your day to read this post. It may give you a new perspective❤
You Can’t Compare Your Beginning to Someone Else’s Middle
I truly have a love/hate relationship with Instagram. I love it because it’s allowing me to build my brand and connect with amazing women which I value more than anything, but with that being said, there are times where I find myself scrolling through my feed with this anxious feeling that I wish I could explain. She has more followers. She’s on a vacation of a lifetime. She’s so skinny. Her relationship is perfect. Her life is so cool.
If you ever find yourself thinking these thoughts, then welcome to the club sister! You’d probably be surprised to learn how many girls struggle with the same exact insecurities. But it’s important to understand that there will always be someone who has a little more than you, and there will always be someone who has a little less than you. You can’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle, or your middle to someone else’s end. Because the truth is, you waste time worrying about what other people think about you.
Embrace where you are in your life right now. What are you proud of? What have you accomplished? What are you so freaking good at? Force yourself to admire your flaws, your weirdness, and your vulnerability. If this means spending more time alone, then do that. Because if you don’t love yourself right now, in this very moment, you’re not going to like yourself any more once you hit 10k followers on Instagram, have a skinnier body, or finally get that dream boyfriend. Your life isn’t yours if you always care what others think.
You become most like the 5 people you spend the most time with.
I recently went through my Instagram feed and unfollowed or ‘muted’ any account that didn’t make me feel genuinely good about myself. I can’t even begin to tell you how amazing this felt. Imagine opening up Instagram every day and LOVING your feed?! Please do yourself a favor and do this immediately. This also goes for relationships in your life. If you’re friends with someone who does not lift you up, sincerely support you, and make you feel good on the inside, then why are you friends with them? Please re-read that sentence if you need it to sink in.
They say you become most like the 5 people you spend the most time with. Who are those people? If you’re not proud to shout their names on the top of a mountain, then I suggest you rethink who’s a part of your tribe. Stop hanging on to relationships that do nothing for you and stop following people who give you that anxious feeling. What’s the worst thing that can happen? You realize you don’t have as many real friends as you thought? Girlfriend, email me or DM me right now and we can be virtual besties. Seriously.
Inspiring girls to feel good about themselves
You all know I love a trendy outfit of the day and sharing my fashion finds with you guys, but I want my platform to be about inspiring girls to feel good about themselves. The older I get, I’m realizing how important it is to surround yourself with the right people. So I encourage you to close the door on those toxic friendships that you should have said goodbye to a long time ago (as hard as it may be), so that you can open up the door to new relationships that will give you the inspiration and encouragement you deserve.
I recently listened to this podcast and loved it so much- Battling Insecurities ❤